An article I came across with today in Yahoo Personals caught my attention when the writer gave out 15 realistic pointers. I just wondered how many “yes” we should answer to know if he or she is the one. Regardless, who knows? Feelings and looks are deceiving and the heart is the most deceitful above all things. That is why the brain is placed at the top and the heart below it.
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Dating Tips: 15 Signs You're Meant to Be Together
Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. How do you know you won't feel differently in a year? 10 years? A lifetime? Deciding if you can commit to someone is a deeply personal determination, and everyone has different criteria. As in any verdict, you have to start by assessing the evidence.
With that in mind, YourTango has come up with 15 signs that you're dating a soul mate. You don't have to check off all of these points to be sure about someone -- but if you can say yes to several, you've found a very special mate.
1. You tell him things you don't tell anyone else. We don't mean blurting something out when you're emotionally unstable, but the desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him -- a major component of successful long-term love.
2. You let her see you in moments of weakness. It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see her when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died, or you had a plain old bad day? She should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden.
3. You respect him. You don't want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life -- he insists on wearing his favorite holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons -- but you like him, plain and simple.
4. You want him to meet your parents. You feel proud of him and you want to show him off -- as opposed to feeling like you have to make excuses for him.
5. You can imagine a future together. You don't have to practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing?
6. You're not afraid to disagree with him. You know that even if you fight, he'll listen to you and won't brush you off. He takes you seriously, even when he thinks you're wrong.
7. You want to work out your major differences. If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together -- different opinions about religion, money, or something else -- you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.
8. You laugh together. Laughter is one of life's simplest pleasures -- you should definitely be able to crack each other up.
9. You're incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to her. Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if she's not a classic beauty or your usual "type"? Even more reason to think she's the one.
10. It's OK to be quiet around her. You don't feel like you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction. Instead, you feel an easy comfort.
11. You feel like yourself around him. You don't feel like you have to edit your thoughts; you're not self-conscious or anxious.
12. You need him the right amount. You long for him -- but not too much. Some neediness is good, but too much breeds discontent.
13. You don't feel too jealous. You're comfortable with him going out with his friends -- even female friends. You let each other have your own lives and hobbies.
14. You feel like she makes you a better person. She makes you feel smart, funny, attractive, creative -- like the best version of yourself. You feel like she brings out and complements the best parts of you.
15. She just gets you. Sometimes it's that easy. You feel like she understands some essential part of you that you can't explain or articulate. It's a warm, comfortable feeling -- and one you should have with the person you marry.
Note to all my friends: do not make mistakes in dropping off your friends when you find that special someone. To quote “Friends help define who we are, and we need them when things get tough”. Besides, when your relationship gets tough and rough, you always run to those people you call FRIENDS!
