Crush and Crash! *raw*

It is weekend again, it’s moi day off and I am here in front of BE (my laptop’s name) gathering and organizing my thoughts while practicing my typing skills and listening to Avril. It’s a holiday tomorrow and I don’t have a class. Crazy as it may seem but I am writing this article in recognition of the movie He's Just Not That into you.

He's Just Not That into you VS. He is just not into you. Telling someone that he's just not that into you is a bit subtle and polite but telling them he is just not into you is the hard truth and I prefer the second one. It is so straight that it does not give an assurance that one day that man may like you. It is similar to saying he does not just like you and there is no way he will like you in the future.

Men and women may deal with pain and loss differently but falling in love is just the same.

According to Life123: Falling in love can literally make you go weak at the knees. So I have gathered the list.

Signs and symptoms of falling in love:

· Your heartbeat increases as the object of your affection passes by.

· The palms of your hands may sweat as your excitement increases.

· You may become odd as you are tongue tied by strong emotion and may say something that you don’t actually mean.

· You may be at a loss about what to say as you gaze into their eyes longingly.

· Your mind will be full of constant thoughts about the person that you are falling for.

· You may play out fantasies in your imagination about being with them and them loving you in return.

· You may have trouble carrying out everyday tasks accurately as you are unable to shift your consciousness away from them onto the task at hand.

· Thinking about them becomes a joy in itself, increasing the strong feelings you have toward them.

· Daydreaming about the one you love could become one of your favourite hobbies and can take up much of your time and mental energy.

· You may find yourself dreaming about them during the night, having spent a long time intensely thinking about them before shutting your eyes to sleep.

· You may find that you feel the need to talk incessantly about love.

· While falling in love, everything that goes on around you will begin to relate to the person that you are falling for.

· You frequently talk about the person and you want to talk about the person as much as possible.

· Please add to this list as you give comments.

Woohoo! This topic gives me goose bumps not because I’m feeling it but because the air is so cold. LOL.

You want to see the person as often as you can, you check all of your e-mail accounts, your blog, your Facebook and other social networking sites, your IM’s and your cell phone a hundred times. Not just because you want to know if there is a message but because you are expecting and anticipating a message.

You may be feeling those that are described in the list but it is not a guarantee that the other person felt the same way too. You may be feeling that you are already floating but you just do not know that the object of your affection did not feel a thing or two. I know that it is sad but that is how it is gonna be, it is either they love you or they love you not.

Taking into account all of your emotional investments, please evaluate if that guy is worth it.

If he is not into you:

· He does not call

· He does not check your page

· He does not ask

· He does not show interest with what you say

· He does not give genuine acknowledgment of your presence

· He does not give a damn about you

· He does not want to be with you

· Please add to this list as you give comments.

If a guy is into you, he knows where to find you and he will make it happen.

Admit it girl, the guy that you have drained your energy with walking to and fro, checking things and all, does not even think about you! He does not like you, he does not love you.

If this is the case then run and keep your distance. He is not worth it.

The thing that guys do not know is that, when girls are still in the heat of the moment, at the brink of all those signs and symptoms above, and at the floating stage, they should grab the chance. Once they miss the bus, they can never have that same bus ride again. When the feeling is gone and that was the time the guy takes action, don’t expect a special treatment because when a girl is over you, she is over you and the feeling that she once felt was overshadowed with how you blow her off. Second, third chances seldom happens. Not all people are love-intelligent, not even all are love-literate and some are not even aware. I may be dumb in a sense that I am Philophobic and Gamophobic and the entire phobia in the world but hey, education never ends and it is a matter of educating yourself. If that is a fact that I’m incapable to erase or remove then I prefer to be love-educated.

Yanni’s rule: I would rather be selfish than to love someone who does not love me or care for someone who does not care for me. My traffic is two-way with one lane.

Be cautious and contain the damage in case of crash.

‘til next movie? ‘Til next article. Don’t hesitate to comment, give suggestions and leave something to make our list longer.

Happy weekend tout le monde!

Fall in love all over again

I apologize to my followers for not posting new articles. It has been a crazy month and I could not complete the article that I really want to dedicate to a friend of mine.

I have not find much time and I know that it’s no excuse, so I’m giving you something that might quench your thirst and I know that you will be all-eyes on this because we are going to talk about the matters of the heart.

I am single and I am not looking for someone whom others consider as the missing part of me. I rarely go out and I do not talk to people whom I don’t like. Well...that’s just me. I have my own world and perhaps you already know that by now. Some people could not help to give their opinions about me getting a boyfriend, as if I can just pick them like leaves from trees and or order them on Ebay. But that is not how it goes. If men find us girls complicated, then the feeling is mutual. Sometimes, I just could not comprehend guys although I am trying to. They play games almost 25/7 and they do not care about other stuff, they even hardly see the sunlight.

Being one of the boys is an advantage because the game plan is just there to see and evaluate. You will have better understanding on techniques, tactics and system of the play. It could be frustrating, confusing and disgusting.There you will know how they catch a fish, whether from the pond, sea or the open ocean.

One day, I was staring at my notebook and never felt so lonely, it has been so long when i had colors on the days that seem so gray. so, there i was asking myself questions after questions and argued with myself. It was an even fight. It has been long since I fell in love. Got hurt a lot of times, cried gallons tears, felt so ugly, unpretty and useless. But that is just what they want me to feel and they love the idea that i will be putting myself on the corner mourning, grieving and maybe think to end my life. For them, that is just exactly what they want me to do. But I am too smart and too good for them and they were the ones who should feel bad because I am no longer a part of their stupid life. I was not at loss and it has never been my loss if they no longer desire to spend their unimportant time with me.

“The more you will know me, the more you will like me”.

Andrea Corr said, there is more to me than what you see when you get closer. That could mean that we don’t give men the luxury to see the vulnerable side of us, they should unwrap us, they should take a closer look at what is inside.

This is pretty elementary, but when was the last time you sang while taking a shower, smiled and giggled when you receive a message from him. When was the last time that you got to be inspired and would like to fast forward days just so you can see him? When was the last time you lost an appetite because you did not have the courage to say things you wish you could? When was the last time having a date is one of the preferred activity? When was the last time you could not sleep because he’s always on your mind? And when was the last time that you realized, it’s not you he wants and that just ruined your day? when was the last time you got jealous and wished it was your hand he's holding? Sigh!

I could go and on and on. Those feelings are pretty normal and part of the process. There is one thing to take cautious about though, do not fall for the wrong guy.

Do not limit yourself. Be free. Fall in love, get hurt, stand up, fall in love again, as long as you don’t give yourself, that is fine, otherwise, you are losing sistah. There are a lot of guys out there who would do anything just so they could get into your pants. You are nobody's fool and I believe that you can do better.

I have included some Adventure notes below and I would like to hear from you. I will be posting an edited version of the article next week and I will include those suggestions and comments and or tips...

Adventure notes:

1. Say anything you want to say to him. Give feedback, either positive or negative. Tell him almost everything that you noticed and do not want about him. If he can’t take it, then drop him like a hot potato because if you are in a relationship with him, he is the type who does not accept constructive criticism.

2. Be strong, be sarcastic and be meaner. Show him how strong you are and he should be very afraid. He will have the wrong impression and a person who sees the soul do not just look at the facade. If he sees your soul then the more he’ll get interested with you.

3. Ask a lot of questions and turn those into psychological data. You will need the information for future reference.

4. If he is shallow, show him how shallow you are too. Why would he want sexy girls with big boobs and nice asses and this and that? Men say things to make you feel bad, to make you wish that you are that kind of girl so that you can get his acceptance. Is he the only one? Tell him how much you like a guy with packs and delicious body, hot and smart (smarter that he thought he is) and more particularly a guy with a perfect smile. Let’s see who is going to feel better now. LOL. If he is shallow then he just lost.

5. Ask him out for a date, well you don’t have to mention that word. Just ask him out. You will be surprised with his answer.

6. If guys assume that you are head over heels on them, let them be. Let them believe that you are so so on them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If he will think that you are desperately in want to have him as a boyfriend, let him be.

7. Show your bad side.

Remember, if a man really likes you, he will do things just to get closer to you. If he is not even aware that you are no longer friends in facebook, that means he is not checking your page and that means, he is not just into you. He may need something from you but he definitely does not need you.

When everything has been accomplished, that is the time to show the real you. 

When a man knows that you are into him, he will take advantage of you and take you for granted. If you like the guy, go ahead and just let the feeling naturally die. As I said, fall in love and get heartbroken but fall in love all over again.


I received a comment below from Melody. I appreciate the feedback and some words mentioned like giving up, giving in, standing up and digging in. Thank you Melo!