would you still ask?

When you walk down the hall and met someone you knew, a familiar face or a friend perhaps what would you do?

You say hi and the person says hello. How are you doing, you asked. He motioned to answer you back and you said Hey I got to go, if you need something give me a call or otherwise pay me a visit down the hall.

A short conversation you will see but things are not the way it should be.

Next day, same time. You are walking just like yesterday. You saw some people talking and wondered what could it  be. Somebody asked you if you already knew, the friend you met yesterday will not be reporting because he is dead.

I am exaggerating it but that does not mean this story isn't true. A lot of times, you say hi out of convenience. You have been a victim of someone's alibis and you pass it forward by doing the same thing.

A promise of availability just to make someone feel better. You know what I mean? The “ if you have problems call me” but you don’t really intend to answer?

Quote taken from one of Stephen Covey’s book [The classic case of pretending to be interested. It falls under the “how are you today?” category of inquiries. Meaning “please don’t say anything of substance. I’m really just making a small talk” when you ask people to open up, be prepared to listen. ]If I may add, this also includes “how are you” then walk away without even waiting for the reply, in my book, I call it “rude”. If you are not interested, don’t ask. If you don’t really have plans to fulfill anything, don’t commit. If you don’t really have the intention to pay attention don’t make yourself available. Because you know what, some people really give attention to details and most of them remember what you say and every word that highlights it. False promise is synonymous to a lie.

One difference we have from machines and robots is emotion. Yes, you can say you are not the emotional type but you have emotions. Everything around us involves emotions. If you don’t have it then please step up and contact me because you might be a Nobel winning discovery. Human without emotions, wow, I wonder how happy the scientists would be to study your anatomy.

Emotions affect everything. Look at National bookstore and Powerbooks in SM to name a few. You will notice the big shelf 2-3 walls occupied by management and leadership books alone. Industries invests a lot just to make you feel better, to make you function better and to make you productive at work. Companies invest in Annual or Semi-Annual seminars to equip workers, to mobilize them so that they will be the employee the management wants them to be.  

On your daily life, you interact with people, talk to people and deal with people.

 If you have nothing constructive to ask, don't. Shut up!

Do not attempt to ask when you never intend to listen. Don't attempt to know the problem when you do not want to share a solution. Don't even think about it.

You know why, that friend you met down that hall, has a big problem and he is suppose to lie and say to you he is fine. He just wants to break down and he needs someone to talk to. You are very good at pretending that you care even when you don't give a damn. 

Know people and be careful what you share. Most them, they don't care.

hi, how are you, how are you doing, is everything alright, how are you coping up, do you have any problems, do you want to share something, et. al. these questions are meant to be asked truthfully. Such a shame, you are getting lame!

If i tell you, i know... would you still ask?