Dating Tips: 15 Signs You're Meant to Be Together from YourTango.com

An article I came across with today in Yahoo Personals caught my attention when the writer gave out 15 realistic pointers. I just wondered how many “yes” we should answer to know if he or she is the one. Regardless, who knows? Feelings and looks are deceiving and the heart is the most deceitful above all things. That is why the brain is placed at the top and the heart below it.

Valentine-ish in December?

Dating Tips: 15 Signs You're Meant to Be Together

Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. How do you know you won't feel differently in a year? 10 years? A lifetime? Deciding if you can commit to someone is a deeply personal determination, and everyone has different criteria. As in any verdict, you have to start by assessing the evidence.

With that in mind, YourTango has come up with 15 signs that you're dating a soul mate. You don't have to check off all of these points to be sure about someone -- but if you can say yes to several, you've found a very special mate.

1. You tell him things you don't tell anyone else. We don't mean blurting something out when you're emotionally unstable, but the desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him -- a major component of successful long-term love.

2. You let her see you in moments of weakness. It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see her when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died, or you had a plain old bad day? She should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden.

3. You respect him. You don't want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life -- he insists on wearing his favorite holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons -- but you like him, plain and simple.

4. You want him to meet your parents. You feel proud of him and you want to show him off -- as opposed to feeling like you have to make excuses for him.

5. You can imagine a future together. You don't have to practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing?

6. You're not afraid to disagree with him. You know that even if you fight, he'll listen to you and won't brush you off. He takes you seriously, even when he thinks you're wrong.

7. You want to work out your major differences. If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together -- different opinions about religion, money, or something else -- you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.

8. You laugh together. Laughter is one of life's simplest pleasures -- you should definitely be able to crack each other up.

9. You're incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to her. Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if she's not a classic beauty or your usual "type"? Even more reason to think she's the one.

10. It's OK to be quiet around her. You don't feel like you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction. Instead, you feel an easy comfort.

11. You feel like yourself around him. You don't feel like you have to edit your thoughts; you're not self-conscious or anxious.

12. You need him the right amount. You long for him -- but not too much. Some neediness is good, but too much breeds discontent.

13. You don't feel too jealous. You're comfortable with him going out with his friends -- even female friends. You let each other have your own lives and hobbies.

14. You feel like she makes you a better person. She makes you feel smart, funny, attractive, creative -- like the best version of yourself. You feel like she brings out and complements the best parts of you.

15. She just gets you. Sometimes it's that easy. You feel like she understands some essential part of you that you can't explain or articulate. It's a warm, comfortable feeling -- and one you should have with the person you marry.

Note to all my friends: do not make mistakes in dropping off your friends when you find that special someone. To quote “Friends help define who we are, and we need them when things get tough”. Besides, when your relationship gets tough and rough, you always run to those people you call FRIENDS!

JERK defined

According to the Urban Dictionary

This is the definition of a Jerk.

Have you met this person? Perhaps yes and perhaps no, it is kind ‘a different when someone you know fits the description...so what is really a Jerk?

(1)  Jerk

The kind of guy most girls ACTUALLY want when they say they want a Nice Guy.

Jerks are selfish, manipulative bastards who see women as little more than sexual conquests to brag about to their buddies or mere objects that are there for their personal pleasure. As to ensure the post-sex breakup will be in their favor, Jerks often play the "sensitive guy" early on so the girl will make most of the moves on HIM, and after he's done with her and dumps her for some other girl just like her, he can make it look like she's at fault for coming on too strong, and consequently she'll take him back if he chooses to return for seconds.

Typically are/were Frat Boys, Jocks, and Preps in school.

"Yeah, Billy's a real Jerk the way he used Tricia like that. Can't believe she bought his crap though."

By ShadowD May 16, 2005

(2)  Jerk Noun.

An idiot or stupid person. An insensitive, selfish, ignorant, cocky person who is inconsiderate and does stupid things.

"You're such a JERK for leaving me at the mall with no ride home!"

by x8drea8x Jul 13, 2005 share this

(3)  Jerk

1. Final stage of evolution of any male who spent at least one year dating in America, no matter his origin

2. Mandatory mindset for self-survival within corporate America

3. At this point of no return, group synonym for an elusive + cocky + self-confident + self-centered + loud + crazy male

4. A guy that doesn’t give a flyin’ fuck about anything else but his handsome allure and annoying success.

5. THE abusive attitude that will surely attract any girl’s love in America. For life

6. A guy that enhances any girl’s low self-esteem and insecurity without meaning it. Then gets blamed for it.

7. A guy that does not return any “I love you” s but keeps smiling at his girl’s face until she melts down and asks for more of that shit :)

8. Every bitches’ openly discussed concern. Yet every bitches’ secret love.

9. A challenge aka any girl’s biggest turn-on.

10. A bitch with a dick.

“Oh my God, Tyler is such a jerk to me {tears} He treats me like shit {collapses} I love him though {go figure}”

“Tyler earned twice my bonus this year and makes me realize what a sorry loser I am. He is such a jerk”

loser bitch cocky insecurity allure

by rafaleracer Feb 28, 2006 share this

(4)  Jerk

1. A mean/heartless person.

2. More common: A guy who perfectly fits the gender stereotype, and is insensitive, controlling, and will treat women like sex objects. Though many women constantly complain about guys like that, most end up with one, because they didn't dig deeper and didn't try to see through the jerk's crap. Instead of going for a nice guy who will obviously be there for a girl, most girls choose what's right in front of them, a cold-hearted bastard who happens to look "macho", who is a big-time flirt and wears his penis on his sleeve.

1.

Billy Bob: Can I have a piece of candy? Please?

Joseph: Let me think about that... NO! WAAAHAHAHAHA!

Billy Bob: ...Jerk!

2.

Charlie: Hey, I heard Becca broke up with Tom...

Ernie: Yeah, she found out he was cheating on her.

Charlie: He sounds like a jerk.

Ernie: He is, but she bought all his shit instead of listening to us, and now she's asking why... kinda sad.

Charlie: Yeah, is sucks to be a nice guy, huh?

Ernie: Tell me about it.

insensitive unemotional sexist bully controlling

(5)  Jerk

An alternative to dating.

Chris Rogers spent all nite jerking it. Word 2 ya mutha!

by Pencil Thin Mustache Oct 16, 2003 share this

(6)  Jerk

A very powerful word to call someone... Unlike the f-word, "jerk" doesn't lose its power the more you say it.

"Hey JERK! Take a vacation to JERKmaca!!!"

by Thorburn Oct 9, 2003 share this

(7)  Jerk

a dance that everybody do in l.a. and longbeach (southern cali). originated in l.a. a click called action figures can jerk good. (check it out on youtube)!!

that nigga gary from action figures can jerk good

i know he look hella bomb when he go to the floor wiff it.

the ugly truth: girls will do everything to be loved and men will do everything just to get into your pants

inspired from the movie "the ugly truth". 

WARNING: there are terms and phrases that are not suitable for minors. 

                 minors are not allowed to read this article. 

Abby Richter (Katherine Heigl) is a romantically challenged morning show producer whose search for Mr. Perfect has left her hopelessly single. She's in for a rude awakening when her bosses team her with Mike Chadway (Gerard Butler), a hardcore TV personality who promises to spill the ugly truth on what makes men and women tick.

 i was impressed with the way the movie was written and if i were to rate it, i would rate it a five out of five. the love story is not the usual and it depicts reality and if you wanna know what that is, well, read on.

i was guilty of playing the part of Abby in this movie. i, too has a checklist. oh common i am not the only one who has a dream guy and on top of that my friends is the desire to be loved by that person. yeah, taking into consideration my crazy experience, i would be playing Mike Chadway if and only if i look at one gender in a general perspective. in this movie, Mike Chadway gave us girls five things to take into consideration if we want to get that guy hooked unto us.

1. never criticize. men are incapable of growing, changing and progress.

2. laugh at whatever he says. even when it is not really funny.

3. change your looks. that includes the way you dress. "you can be very attractive but totally inaccessible".

4. never talk about your problem. because the truth is, he does not care.

5. make your hair longer. he wants to grab unto something other than your ass. a ponytail implies that you are either operating a heavy machinery or you are emptying a leather box ...

if you notice, it is all physical. we give men the pleasure and the air to keep their heads bigger and bloated.

the checklist is:

*at least 5'5''

*a graduate of a baccalaureate degree

*nice smile, good set of teeth

*understanding

*patient

*romantic

*and it could go on and on and on

we have checklists, we have dream boyfriends, ideal husbands, etc... yet, when we met the person that can make our hearts beats faster and slower at the same time, we tend to forget the qualifications and we tend to disregard this man's resume. why? because the list will be converted into just one thing WE WANT TO BE LOVED which includes we want to be special. have you ever experienced getting hurt and being betrayed by the one you intimately loved? yes i do, nothing to be shy of, i am not a minor anyway. so, even after this person betrayed me, i moved on and i still know how to trust, my ability to love did not go away, i was not impaired at all. i still say, hey i have been betrayed and cheated yet i do not think that all men are like that. it is the person's individuality and i know that you men out there will agree that you are not at all the same with each other. it depends on how you perceive things and live your life. one thing to note ladies is that most men loves to leave you hanging. most men has this "be mean to girls and the more they will crave more of you", it is one hunting technique that most of these men find amusing. because we girls, loves details and we analyze almost all things. so in return, they give us small hints and tiny clues not enough to make the picture clear. 

I ONCE almost FELL IN LOVE WITH A JERK!

so poor of me, i once fell into the trap of a jerk. because i allowed myself to feel something for him. he was a boy who pretends to be a man or the other way around. i did not even realize that i can have a very fast wake up call and recovery out of the sickness of liking this person. he is a BIG joke. what is more disgusting of a man trying to suck the very blood of you and gives you promises and words that are out of this world...only to find out that he never intends to be attached, to be associated and to be an "item" with you?! acting as if, you still need to ask his parents so you can take him out? yeah right, and so i tried understanding him, adjusting to him and liking things about him that i don't even like in the first place. i tried to be a totally different person, i minimized my control freak, psychotic, weird, OC attitude just like what Abby did but to no avail, i'm just one of those girls who cannot hide the real feelings that i have inside. my being straightforward and honest did not do much help. i do not even know until this very moment upon typing this blog what the hell was wrong with this guy. i am but assumptions and hypothesis. well, i used to lack sleep or get really depressed because of what he did; that again, i don't even know. things to take note loser...you don't deserve me, you don't deserve a friend like me, you are a loser, a sucker and most of all you are a JERK!!! if you have issues with yourself, why would you generalize and go on a shooting spree. you have been hurt, cheated and betrayed but you cannot take it on all the girls who are good to you, what kind of thinking do you have. you dont belong on this earth, perhaps you should go to outerspace and be with the meteorites and dust because you dont deserve to be happy. i pity you! 

girls, men would do everything to do best of their ability to hook you up. in order to attain that, they do small things like spark up a conversation, pretend to be your friend, get your number etc... NOW if you are clever and cunning and you are the kind of girl who refuses to get inside their pockets, then congratulations you are just one of those most men does not like. they love girls who would suck their c**k. 

on the other side, these men has their own weaknesses. intimidation ladies, intimidation!

men gets intimidated if they know that you pretty much does not need them. simple carpentry, tire change, bottle opening, shopping bag lifting, etc.

men get intimidated if they know you earn bigger than his paycheck.

men gets intimidated if they know that you can pay for your own meal and can also pay for his.

men gets intimidated if you know how to drive and you don't need them to survive.

reality check boys, women are the majority of the workforce nowadays and we earn a good number plus we have job security.

their brains lacks blood and oxygen because instead of going up, those essential element goes down, below to their c**k!

things to be careful about:

men will make you suffer just so you will crave for them.

they will not call because they want you to call them.

he will blow you off so that you will redeem yourself to his advantage.

men are into lust, seduction and manipulation.

they keep the conversation under a minute, so that you will want to talk to them.

they pretty much love girls that they can figure out in a few seconds.

when you think that you found that guy, do not trust him right away, you have to screen him and show him the worse that you could be. be true, be you. because if that guy really likes you and loves you, he will call you, treat you right, accept you for who you are and what you can be. he always starts with friendship and not sex. if a guy asks to visit you in your place, ask him why? if the only reason is sex then wake up girl that is all he wants and he will not love you after that. don't go low and cheap just to get him, you may feed a dog a bone but feeding a guy with a muffin won't guarantee love after he has ejaculated.

you can follow the steps in getting that guy you always want and you feel you "love" but he will be seeing the different you and not the real "you", a person that you just made up. the truth is ugly but it is liberating. so, i realized too long ago that he is not worth it, not worthy of my time and effort and loyalty and devotion. i am sorry man but i am not the kind of girl you thought i was, there are a lot more than meets the eyes. our mistake is that we tend to be impatient and are creative in planning those details. do not make it complicated. we are Filipinos and we still have the delicadeza, self-worth still exists. to all those guys out there who belongs to the Suckers World and the Jerk Planet, you may bang all the girls you pick up all your life but mind you, when you reach the age 45, you will be just in your bedroom's corner, miserable. you may still have a girl but its not you they want, its your money honey. so my advice is, save dude so that when that time comes you still have something to give aside from your luggage. and to all you girls, what is the rush, you may have temporary color blindness like me but you are still special and you will always be. do not settle with a man who does not value your worth and does not treat you right, it is either you will be his psychiatrist or you will be the patient in the long run.

there will be a sequence on this and i invite you to share your views. this is my blog and this is my idea, you don't have to agree with everything.

the ugly truth trailer

coming soon...

something realistic, crazy, straightforward and a whole bunch of emotional stirring will awaken thoughts and criticisms. watch out! it is still coming soon

think about it

Life is wonderful and it is so beautiful. You will be happy when your life has its meaning, reason and purpose. It is neither a routine nor an itinerary that you accomplish each day. Everyone can be happy as long they want to. But I do not really want to be happy...

I want to be glad, joyful and blissful. Do not ever look at yourself according to the standard of man. They are all deceiving.
Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised".
We are but a traveler in this world, all we see is never permanent. This is not our home to dwell. This is but a battleground or a passageway. It is not on how strong you are but on how strong your faith is. Faith, hope and love but the greatest of this is LOVE. if you are unloved, you should know that when everyone turns their back on you, God makes you complete, He never leaves and He is always there to love you. The love of man is full of requirements but the love of God is pure and true. You don’t have to look very far, God knows what you want and what you need. Have faith, have hope and have love. God will not give up on you even when everybody already did. 

i was looking for good finds on the net a few days ago. i was actually entering the question "why is he not talking to me". well, i was able to find an article about it and it was not bad. the writer gave 4 reasons why a man won't talk to a woman and oh yeah, first reason hit me. hahaha.

anyway, what intrested me the most is the article you are about to read below.

11 Reasons He Dumped You

partner

• by Rich Santos, Marie Claire, on Wed Sep 23, 2009 4:06pm PDT

I was flipping through a Women's Health recently (I admit it), and I noticed an interesting poll. Women cited the following as the most common breakup reasons:

• He changed
• We weren't compatible
• He cheated on me

When I was little, it drove me crazy when my parents supported "no" with "because I said so." I always wanted a reason. I'm not sure if knowing why always helps, but perhaps if you know common reasons guys break up with girls, you'll at least be able to see it coming. So, here are mine:

I Got Bored: I've read many different hypotheses on attention span, but my favorite is (Wikipedia):

"Continuous attention span, or the amount of time a human can focus on an object without any lapse at all, is very brief and may be as short as 8 seconds. After this amount of time, it is likely that an individual's eyes will shift focus, or that a stray thought will briefly enter consciousness."

My attention span (unless it's a football game or a song) may be worse. I know a relationship is not supposed to be exciting all the time, so getting through those flatline moments between the sparks is critical. If I start having more fun with other activities, the relationship is doomed.

One of Us Was Too Serious: This could be as simple as she wanted to see me three times a week, and I only wanted to see her once a week. If she's flirting with other guys, flighty, or not as into it as I am, then I'm too serious for her.

Burnout: I'm a big believer in pacing and rhythm in dating. A relationship can suffer burnout if certain milestones occur too fast: Being exclusive, sex, meeting parents. When that happens, I get that feeling the colonists must have gotten after they won the Revolutionary War: "Ok, we did it...so now what?"

I Was Tempted To Cheat: I do my best not to cheat, so when I have recurring urges to cheat on my girlfriend, I figure it's time to break up with her. I don't need to go through with cheating; the constant urge is enough for me to end things.

All My Friends Broke Up With Their Girlfriends: This is by far the most immature reason on this list. While my girlfriend and I are curled up on the couch watching "The Devil Wears Prada," my newly single guy friends are out shredding the karaoke waves with Journey's "Don't Stop Believin" and tearing up the town. That conflict gives me wanderlust. It's much easier when we are all in for a quiet Saturday night with the significant others.

Divergent Lives: If someone moves to another town, or work is taking over, or other life changes are driving you apart, sometimes it's best to end it.

Feeling Selfish: Dating is selfless because you're giving your time and yourself up to a relationship. "Me time" is necessary at some point to work on career/living situation, travel, or whatever. When I'm in a "selfish period," it's tough to participate in a relationship.

I "Misread" My Feelings: This is the most unfair of all the reasons. Both genders make this mistake—you get into a relationship and everything seems so great. Then, a few weeks later, you realize you got wrapped up in something for the wrong reason, dated for the sake of dating, or whatever, and you need to get out.

My Friends Or Family Didn't Like Her: I pay close attention to friend/family opinions because they know me best, and they've earned the right to have their say. Also, friends and family may be able to see things inside the relationship that I'm too blinded to see.

I Took Her For Granted: Great relationships should be easy, but there has to be some tension too—especially in the beginning. If it's too easy, there's a lack of challenge. If I feel like I could have her heart any time any place, sometimes I'll let her go. This almost always ends up coming back to haunt me later, though. I never learn.

She Was Too Negative: All too often, I end up with the brooding, depressed, uptight type who is constantly complaining. I don't expect someone to be happy all the time, but if she makes me unhappy every time I see her, why stay with her?

What reasons have guys used to break up with you, and which make you most angry? What reasons have caused you to break up with guys? Which reasons do you think are the most common cause of breakups- do they differ for guys and women?

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good bye 25

i thank God for giving me another year. there is a purpose why i am still alive up to this very moment. Thank you Lord for loving me, i have never felt this kind of love and i can only find them in You. through my fears and failures, my imperfections and pain, my frustrations and hopes, You were there when no one else stood to fight for me. You were there to rescue me when i was judged by these people and You were always there. it is always You and me together. So this 26th year, i re-dedicate my life to you. Be it unto me that I will no longer look for love, make me content; i will no longer crave for care, fill me. i will wait patiently for the person that you designed for me. i have been hurt and confused and wasted a lot of time. may these events occur no more. I am sorry for the stupid things i have done; i am sorry that instead i run to you when i got depressed, i found myself with the counsel of people; i am sorry that i try to impress some people and did not think if you are pleased with me; i am sorry for giving my love away without a righteous cause. i am imperfect and will never be perfect. forgive me. help me, mold me and change me. stay with me and never let me go my Father. heal my broken heart. embrace me with your grace. it is only YOU that i need. until the day that you will take me, i am still officially Under Construction. let this be my prayer...

sun cellular unlimited calls?

Telecommunication Industry's competition and product offerings are really marketed well for both business and personal use. For 450.00 pesos, you can have unlimited sun-sun calls and text messaging for one month and that is prepaid. To include some users like myself who does not want to get tied with contracts, prefers prepaid. A friend told me you can save more if you go postpaid and will have much more benefits. I have been enjoying this service for years to get in touch with my family, friends; take care of business, clients and work.

I have however received annoying phone calls and believe me, you won't like it. People will force you to speak a language so that they will understand you, they will insist that you should talk to them, they will bombard you with text messages that will clog up your inbox...because they are unli! different hours of day and night, they annoy you. When you will ask them who they're looking for, they will say that they just pressed those lucky numbers and hola...you are the unfortunate person that these pranksters will devour. Where is the "using technology wisely" now, where's the courtesy and phone etiquette? They ask like a police investigator, talk as if you are friends and they bother you the most when you just want to be left alone. It is just so funny that there are these guys that thinks that you would simply be delighted to give in to what they want, you just don't pick textmates as if they are leaves in the trees. they are not even sure if you are that type. C'mon, for those who are "trying to be" a totally different person, pretending you don't know that it's my number and wants to gather some information hoping that I will tell you things...have the guts to approach me. What is the matter if you just be yourself, you can definitely say hey, i am interested to know you, i would like to know you more.


Still there are a lot of people who uses this technology and even when we are only 11 digits away, people still deserves privacy.

welcome to my blog

It occurred to me that I should start writing again. 10 years ago, writing is an extra-curricular activity that demands time, attention and creativity from me. There was pressure. The scent of the paper newly published from the printing press is an aroma to every writer. Reader's reaction to the very line you wrote is pride. Well, this is not high-school nor college anymore and to revive our motto...we write to express and not to impress.

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