For Marshall

Bless the Broken Road

I set out on a narrow way, many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost in time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you

Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true

That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Yes He did

I think about the years I spent, just passing through
I'd like to have the time I lost, and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there, you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true

Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true

That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

But now I'm just rolling home into my lover's arms
This much I know is true

That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

Crush and Crash! *raw*

It is weekend again, it’s moi day off and I am here in front of BE (my laptop’s name) gathering and organizing my thoughts while practicing my typing skills and listening to Avril. It’s a holiday tomorrow and I don’t have a class. Crazy as it may seem but I am writing this article in recognition of the movie He's Just Not That into you.

He's Just Not That into you VS. He is just not into you. Telling someone that he's just not that into you is a bit subtle and polite but telling them he is just not into you is the hard truth and I prefer the second one. It is so straight that it does not give an assurance that one day that man may like you. It is similar to saying he does not just like you and there is no way he will like you in the future.

Men and women may deal with pain and loss differently but falling in love is just the same.

According to Life123: Falling in love can literally make you go weak at the knees. So I have gathered the list.

Signs and symptoms of falling in love:

· Your heartbeat increases as the object of your affection passes by.

· The palms of your hands may sweat as your excitement increases.

· You may become odd as you are tongue tied by strong emotion and may say something that you don’t actually mean.

· You may be at a loss about what to say as you gaze into their eyes longingly.

· Your mind will be full of constant thoughts about the person that you are falling for.

· You may play out fantasies in your imagination about being with them and them loving you in return.

· You may have trouble carrying out everyday tasks accurately as you are unable to shift your consciousness away from them onto the task at hand.

· Thinking about them becomes a joy in itself, increasing the strong feelings you have toward them.

· Daydreaming about the one you love could become one of your favourite hobbies and can take up much of your time and mental energy.

· You may find yourself dreaming about them during the night, having spent a long time intensely thinking about them before shutting your eyes to sleep.

· You may find that you feel the need to talk incessantly about love.

· While falling in love, everything that goes on around you will begin to relate to the person that you are falling for.

· You frequently talk about the person and you want to talk about the person as much as possible.

· Please add to this list as you give comments.

Woohoo! This topic gives me goose bumps not because I’m feeling it but because the air is so cold. LOL.

You want to see the person as often as you can, you check all of your e-mail accounts, your blog, your Facebook and other social networking sites, your IM’s and your cell phone a hundred times. Not just because you want to know if there is a message but because you are expecting and anticipating a message.

You may be feeling those that are described in the list but it is not a guarantee that the other person felt the same way too. You may be feeling that you are already floating but you just do not know that the object of your affection did not feel a thing or two. I know that it is sad but that is how it is gonna be, it is either they love you or they love you not.

Taking into account all of your emotional investments, please evaluate if that guy is worth it.

If he is not into you:

· He does not call

· He does not check your page

· He does not ask

· He does not show interest with what you say

· He does not give genuine acknowledgment of your presence

· He does not give a damn about you

· He does not want to be with you

· Please add to this list as you give comments.

If a guy is into you, he knows where to find you and he will make it happen.

Admit it girl, the guy that you have drained your energy with walking to and fro, checking things and all, does not even think about you! He does not like you, he does not love you.

If this is the case then run and keep your distance. He is not worth it.

The thing that guys do not know is that, when girls are still in the heat of the moment, at the brink of all those signs and symptoms above, and at the floating stage, they should grab the chance. Once they miss the bus, they can never have that same bus ride again. When the feeling is gone and that was the time the guy takes action, don’t expect a special treatment because when a girl is over you, she is over you and the feeling that she once felt was overshadowed with how you blow her off. Second, third chances seldom happens. Not all people are love-intelligent, not even all are love-literate and some are not even aware. I may be dumb in a sense that I am Philophobic and Gamophobic and the entire phobia in the world but hey, education never ends and it is a matter of educating yourself. If that is a fact that I’m incapable to erase or remove then I prefer to be love-educated.

Yanni’s rule: I would rather be selfish than to love someone who does not love me or care for someone who does not care for me. My traffic is two-way with one lane.

Be cautious and contain the damage in case of crash.

‘til next movie? ‘Til next article. Don’t hesitate to comment, give suggestions and leave something to make our list longer.

Happy weekend tout le monde!

Fall in love all over again

I apologize to my followers for not posting new articles. It has been a crazy month and I could not complete the article that I really want to dedicate to a friend of mine.

I have not find much time and I know that it’s no excuse, so I’m giving you something that might quench your thirst and I know that you will be all-eyes on this because we are going to talk about the matters of the heart.

I am single and I am not looking for someone whom others consider as the missing part of me. I rarely go out and I do not talk to people whom I don’t like. Well...that’s just me. I have my own world and perhaps you already know that by now. Some people could not help to give their opinions about me getting a boyfriend, as if I can just pick them like leaves from trees and or order them on Ebay. But that is not how it goes. If men find us girls complicated, then the feeling is mutual. Sometimes, I just could not comprehend guys although I am trying to. They play games almost 25/7 and they do not care about other stuff, they even hardly see the sunlight.

Being one of the boys is an advantage because the game plan is just there to see and evaluate. You will have better understanding on techniques, tactics and system of the play. It could be frustrating, confusing and disgusting.There you will know how they catch a fish, whether from the pond, sea or the open ocean.

One day, I was staring at my notebook and never felt so lonely, it has been so long when i had colors on the days that seem so gray. so, there i was asking myself questions after questions and argued with myself. It was an even fight. It has been long since I fell in love. Got hurt a lot of times, cried gallons tears, felt so ugly, unpretty and useless. But that is just what they want me to feel and they love the idea that i will be putting myself on the corner mourning, grieving and maybe think to end my life. For them, that is just exactly what they want me to do. But I am too smart and too good for them and they were the ones who should feel bad because I am no longer a part of their stupid life. I was not at loss and it has never been my loss if they no longer desire to spend their unimportant time with me.

“The more you will know me, the more you will like me”.

Andrea Corr said, there is more to me than what you see when you get closer. That could mean that we don’t give men the luxury to see the vulnerable side of us, they should unwrap us, they should take a closer look at what is inside.

This is pretty elementary, but when was the last time you sang while taking a shower, smiled and giggled when you receive a message from him. When was the last time that you got to be inspired and would like to fast forward days just so you can see him? When was the last time you lost an appetite because you did not have the courage to say things you wish you could? When was the last time having a date is one of the preferred activity? When was the last time you could not sleep because he’s always on your mind? And when was the last time that you realized, it’s not you he wants and that just ruined your day? when was the last time you got jealous and wished it was your hand he's holding? Sigh!

I could go and on and on. Those feelings are pretty normal and part of the process. There is one thing to take cautious about though, do not fall for the wrong guy.

Do not limit yourself. Be free. Fall in love, get hurt, stand up, fall in love again, as long as you don’t give yourself, that is fine, otherwise, you are losing sistah. There are a lot of guys out there who would do anything just so they could get into your pants. You are nobody's fool and I believe that you can do better.

I have included some Adventure notes below and I would like to hear from you. I will be posting an edited version of the article next week and I will include those suggestions and comments and or tips...

Adventure notes:

1. Say anything you want to say to him. Give feedback, either positive or negative. Tell him almost everything that you noticed and do not want about him. If he can’t take it, then drop him like a hot potato because if you are in a relationship with him, he is the type who does not accept constructive criticism.

2. Be strong, be sarcastic and be meaner. Show him how strong you are and he should be very afraid. He will have the wrong impression and a person who sees the soul do not just look at the facade. If he sees your soul then the more he’ll get interested with you.

3. Ask a lot of questions and turn those into psychological data. You will need the information for future reference.

4. If he is shallow, show him how shallow you are too. Why would he want sexy girls with big boobs and nice asses and this and that? Men say things to make you feel bad, to make you wish that you are that kind of girl so that you can get his acceptance. Is he the only one? Tell him how much you like a guy with packs and delicious body, hot and smart (smarter that he thought he is) and more particularly a guy with a perfect smile. Let’s see who is going to feel better now. LOL. If he is shallow then he just lost.

5. Ask him out for a date, well you don’t have to mention that word. Just ask him out. You will be surprised with his answer.

6. If guys assume that you are head over heels on them, let them be. Let them believe that you are so so on them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If he will think that you are desperately in want to have him as a boyfriend, let him be.

7. Show your bad side.

Remember, if a man really likes you, he will do things just to get closer to you. If he is not even aware that you are no longer friends in facebook, that means he is not checking your page and that means, he is not just into you. He may need something from you but he definitely does not need you.

When everything has been accomplished, that is the time to show the real you. 

When a man knows that you are into him, he will take advantage of you and take you for granted. If you like the guy, go ahead and just let the feeling naturally die. As I said, fall in love and get heartbroken but fall in love all over again.


I received a comment below from Melody. I appreciate the feedback and some words mentioned like giving up, giving in, standing up and digging in. Thank you Melo!

 

What are women looking for in a relationship? *raw*

What are women looking for in a relationship? This is the question that I chose for my article submission to Facebook's Beta tester invitation. I am thinking to share this with you all. Enjoy the juicy, raw and unedited version of this article. Another example of being an impulsive writer. My term which means a person who writes to express what is on her mind and it need to get out, otherwise, there will be headache.

Women as we know looks complicated as it may seem, so complicated that men would not understand if they try to understand women. But you will never know unless you try to know women the way they are. Women sound so demanding that majority of them has criteria and a long list of do’s and don’ts. A. We are going to know first what women want in a man. Some women prefer good looking man while others are very particular with the smile. Some women go for the money, for the fame or for the name. Beauty is totally deceiving and there are a lot of not-as-good looking guys out there who probably possessed one or two or all of them. These distinct complications of what women want in a man is ever changing and believe me, women just changes her mind in a minute or two. If I were to represent a small population of myself, meaning girls who have similar and have the same thinking as I have. Perhaps, I would say that I also have a list of my own. I mean who does not want to walk around the mall with the good looking man, taller than you, gorgeous smile, funny and smart? But the thing is, A. what women want in a man, is actually a second priority. Moving on with B., What are women looking for in a relationship definitely depends on what kind of women do the searching. It is not a concrete and a hard rule that we impose that this is it because preferences vary from one ideal to the other. If we equate women to the writer who is me, then we can say that women is looking for a relationship that gives an avenue for growth, a relationship that gives comfort and warmth, serious and was built in love. The kind of relationship that is goes beyond friendship, companionship and criticisms. Who does not want to be loved? There is an inner cry and craving inside every cold individual that longs for someone to hold on to. Someone who respects the way you want your coffee to taste, someone who criticizes the way you cook but finished all the meal that you have prepared. That no matter how hard the argument, that man will still go home with you and at the end of the day, it is still your arms surrounding him so that he will feel warm.
There are also women who like a playful relationship, there are some who loves the pain and some who imprisoned themselves inside their virtual world of pessimistic and sadistic thoughts that no one will ever love them. There are two things that you will come across when you try to know that women. It is only either, the more you know her, the more you won’t like or love her and or the more you know her, the more you’ll like or love her.

It could probably be compared with exploration, adventure and discovery. We have the fear of the unknown where hesitation blooms and flowers to a wonderful rejection. It is new territory for us and we tend to easily lose hope. If that relationship is just across the street then I will do everything I can to conquer the turn of events.

Relationships are not perfect in fact; it involves a lot of hard work and sweat.
What this woman is looking for in a relationship? Is a relationship that has the foundation of love, the walls of acceptance, the cornerstone of loyalty and dedication, and the roof of protection.
I will cross the world even when I have a small percentage of probability that the other half of me is just out there also waiting for me.

would you still ask?

When you walk down the hall and met someone you knew, a familiar face or a friend perhaps what would you do?

You say hi and the person says hello. How are you doing, you asked. He motioned to answer you back and you said Hey I got to go, if you need something give me a call or otherwise pay me a visit down the hall.

A short conversation you will see but things are not the way it should be.

Next day, same time. You are walking just like yesterday. You saw some people talking and wondered what could it  be. Somebody asked you if you already knew, the friend you met yesterday will not be reporting because he is dead.

I am exaggerating it but that does not mean this story isn't true. A lot of times, you say hi out of convenience. You have been a victim of someone's alibis and you pass it forward by doing the same thing.

A promise of availability just to make someone feel better. You know what I mean? The “ if you have problems call me” but you don’t really intend to answer?

Quote taken from one of Stephen Covey’s book [The classic case of pretending to be interested. It falls under the “how are you today?” category of inquiries. Meaning “please don’t say anything of substance. I’m really just making a small talk” when you ask people to open up, be prepared to listen. ]If I may add, this also includes “how are you” then walk away without even waiting for the reply, in my book, I call it “rude”. If you are not interested, don’t ask. If you don’t really have plans to fulfill anything, don’t commit. If you don’t really have the intention to pay attention don’t make yourself available. Because you know what, some people really give attention to details and most of them remember what you say and every word that highlights it. False promise is synonymous to a lie.

One difference we have from machines and robots is emotion. Yes, you can say you are not the emotional type but you have emotions. Everything around us involves emotions. If you don’t have it then please step up and contact me because you might be a Nobel winning discovery. Human without emotions, wow, I wonder how happy the scientists would be to study your anatomy.

Emotions affect everything. Look at National bookstore and Powerbooks in SM to name a few. You will notice the big shelf 2-3 walls occupied by management and leadership books alone. Industries invests a lot just to make you feel better, to make you function better and to make you productive at work. Companies invest in Annual or Semi-Annual seminars to equip workers, to mobilize them so that they will be the employee the management wants them to be.  

On your daily life, you interact with people, talk to people and deal with people.

 If you have nothing constructive to ask, don't. Shut up!

Do not attempt to ask when you never intend to listen. Don't attempt to know the problem when you do not want to share a solution. Don't even think about it.

You know why, that friend you met down that hall, has a big problem and he is suppose to lie and say to you he is fine. He just wants to break down and he needs someone to talk to. You are very good at pretending that you care even when you don't give a damn. 

Know people and be careful what you share. Most them, they don't care.

hi, how are you, how are you doing, is everything alright, how are you coping up, do you have any problems, do you want to share something, et. al. these questions are meant to be asked truthfully. Such a shame, you are getting lame!

If i tell you, i know... would you still ask?

 

Adding insult to injury, the seminar review

I attended a” How To Correctly Start An Internet Marketing Business” seminar last Saturday April 10, 2010. Much to my disappointments are the following...

Venue: I was hoping for a more comfy casual-corporate type of a setting since we are talking about Sarrosa hotel, I am not ranting about the hotel but the place we held the seminar. It was at the left wing and it was the bar night club kind of place that still had its hangover from the last night’s operations. The smell is stinky and the comfort room was uncomfortable after all, synonymous of cancer chamber due to second hand smoke. 

Food: The amount I paid, for myself in my own opinion is not cheap. But let’s not talk about that yet. The snack in morning is a very plain sandwich that does not even require thinking. Plain bread with spread, 3 layers and divided it into two, paired with what? Oishi Sundays mango flavour! Lunch... it’s terrible that I want to go and eat outside. I am not satisfied at all. One small slice of what? Roasted chicken, a cup of rice and side dish of cute veges, well at least you have a choice of a glass of coke or sprite? Mind you people, we have vegetarians and you have somebody who does not drink sodas. I went all the way to drink-all-you-can water. The sad part is the afternoon snack which they served around 4:00 or 4:30 pm. really sad because I was hungry and isn’t it not supposed to be served around 3:00 pm? The sadder part of that sad part? The cake was paired with eight o’clock or tang, one glass. I feel like my meal is just worth 200 or less.

Price: Early bird cost 2, 777.00 pesos. As I said, is not cheap for me. I saved it up just to attend this seminar and it is not a good value for the money. No offense Bo but I really had your word when you sent me that article. I did not expect something like that.

Seminar itself: I have encountered that one before, I already know what dreams are, I pretty much know what I want and it is way too different when you ask somebody what they want and what they love. Do you get it? When you say I love this, you love that, you have had experienced it. In contrast to “I want this”, you want to experience it. Do you see the difference? Some websites were mentioned but there were no details, there was this kind ‘a overview with someone’s experience and WOW jaw dropping income from internet marketing so fascinating that I don’t want to get envious.

Coordination: There was no registration. When I went inside, I have to ask other participants what to do and where to go. I have not distinguished the organizers from the rest; I have no clue who to approach. At times there were dead airs. Nothing personal Jan but you have to harness your speaking, organizing and social skills.

Materials: I had nothing except the notes I took. We were all given the small brown envelope and mind you, they were all advertising materials like catalogues and flyers. But thanks anyway, at least I had an envelope. 

Overall: I bet those people are really expensive, their time is worth a thousand pesos. Pardon me for my language but that seminar is not worth the time, the day, the money and effort I exerted. I did not assume anything when I went there, I expected to be blessed and be surprised. I was indeed surprised. 

Overall rating is 1 over 5 stars, 5 being the best.

Lesson I learned? I will not attend a seminar anymore if it is not for FREE otherwise it’ll add insult to injury. LOL!