Fall in love all over again

I apologize to my followers for not posting new articles. It has been a crazy month and I could not complete the article that I really want to dedicate to a friend of mine.

I have not find much time and I know that it’s no excuse, so I’m giving you something that might quench your thirst and I know that you will be all-eyes on this because we are going to talk about the matters of the heart.

I am single and I am not looking for someone whom others consider as the missing part of me. I rarely go out and I do not talk to people whom I don’t like. Well...that’s just me. I have my own world and perhaps you already know that by now. Some people could not help to give their opinions about me getting a boyfriend, as if I can just pick them like leaves from trees and or order them on Ebay. But that is not how it goes. If men find us girls complicated, then the feeling is mutual. Sometimes, I just could not comprehend guys although I am trying to. They play games almost 25/7 and they do not care about other stuff, they even hardly see the sunlight.

Being one of the boys is an advantage because the game plan is just there to see and evaluate. You will have better understanding on techniques, tactics and system of the play. It could be frustrating, confusing and disgusting.There you will know how they catch a fish, whether from the pond, sea or the open ocean.

One day, I was staring at my notebook and never felt so lonely, it has been so long when i had colors on the days that seem so gray. so, there i was asking myself questions after questions and argued with myself. It was an even fight. It has been long since I fell in love. Got hurt a lot of times, cried gallons tears, felt so ugly, unpretty and useless. But that is just what they want me to feel and they love the idea that i will be putting myself on the corner mourning, grieving and maybe think to end my life. For them, that is just exactly what they want me to do. But I am too smart and too good for them and they were the ones who should feel bad because I am no longer a part of their stupid life. I was not at loss and it has never been my loss if they no longer desire to spend their unimportant time with me.

“The more you will know me, the more you will like me”.

Andrea Corr said, there is more to me than what you see when you get closer. That could mean that we don’t give men the luxury to see the vulnerable side of us, they should unwrap us, they should take a closer look at what is inside.

This is pretty elementary, but when was the last time you sang while taking a shower, smiled and giggled when you receive a message from him. When was the last time that you got to be inspired and would like to fast forward days just so you can see him? When was the last time you lost an appetite because you did not have the courage to say things you wish you could? When was the last time having a date is one of the preferred activity? When was the last time you could not sleep because he’s always on your mind? And when was the last time that you realized, it’s not you he wants and that just ruined your day? when was the last time you got jealous and wished it was your hand he's holding? Sigh!

I could go and on and on. Those feelings are pretty normal and part of the process. There is one thing to take cautious about though, do not fall for the wrong guy.

Do not limit yourself. Be free. Fall in love, get hurt, stand up, fall in love again, as long as you don’t give yourself, that is fine, otherwise, you are losing sistah. There are a lot of guys out there who would do anything just so they could get into your pants. You are nobody's fool and I believe that you can do better.

I have included some Adventure notes below and I would like to hear from you. I will be posting an edited version of the article next week and I will include those suggestions and comments and or tips...

Adventure notes:

1. Say anything you want to say to him. Give feedback, either positive or negative. Tell him almost everything that you noticed and do not want about him. If he can’t take it, then drop him like a hot potato because if you are in a relationship with him, he is the type who does not accept constructive criticism.

2. Be strong, be sarcastic and be meaner. Show him how strong you are and he should be very afraid. He will have the wrong impression and a person who sees the soul do not just look at the facade. If he sees your soul then the more he’ll get interested with you.

3. Ask a lot of questions and turn those into psychological data. You will need the information for future reference.

4. If he is shallow, show him how shallow you are too. Why would he want sexy girls with big boobs and nice asses and this and that? Men say things to make you feel bad, to make you wish that you are that kind of girl so that you can get his acceptance. Is he the only one? Tell him how much you like a guy with packs and delicious body, hot and smart (smarter that he thought he is) and more particularly a guy with a perfect smile. Let’s see who is going to feel better now. LOL. If he is shallow then he just lost.

5. Ask him out for a date, well you don’t have to mention that word. Just ask him out. You will be surprised with his answer.

6. If guys assume that you are head over heels on them, let them be. Let them believe that you are so so on them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If he will think that you are desperately in want to have him as a boyfriend, let him be.

7. Show your bad side.

Remember, if a man really likes you, he will do things just to get closer to you. If he is not even aware that you are no longer friends in facebook, that means he is not checking your page and that means, he is not just into you. He may need something from you but he definitely does not need you.

When everything has been accomplished, that is the time to show the real you. 

When a man knows that you are into him, he will take advantage of you and take you for granted. If you like the guy, go ahead and just let the feeling naturally die. As I said, fall in love and get heartbroken but fall in love all over again.


I received a comment below from Melody. I appreciate the feedback and some words mentioned like giving up, giving in, standing up and digging in. Thank you Melo!